Accept each moment as it comes, and embrace who you are.
Why is it some of us move on from difficulties easier than others? The solution is compassion and self-acceptance. I think the reason we don’t accept something is we make a judgement about it.Acceptance means letting go of self-judgement and facing up to the reality of your situation, whatever it might be. Click To TweetOnce you overcome self-judgement, you make way for more peace and joy in your life.
Acknowledging your feelings of self-judgement
Try not to judge your feelings as good or bad. Doing this can create extra stress because it can lead to thoughts of inadequacy.
When you assume you shouldn’t be feeling a certain way try giving your feelings a label such as anger, disappointment, joy or calmness. Labelling your feelings provides you with greater acceptance of them.
Let your feelings in and just be.
Allow yourself to make mistakes
Fear of making mistakes will hold you back, and the best way to approach this feeling is to see your failures as an opportunity to learn. Learn how to conquer your fear of failure because the truth is everybody fails at some things sometimes.
Think of it this way; if a child learning to walk didn’t get back up and try again after falling they’d never learn to walk!
Practise self-acceptance over self-judgement
Let go of your negative self-judgement about your appearance, performance or anything else you beat yourself up about. Ignore your false beliefs about not being good enough and be honest with yourself its time to accept all that you are.
When something is particularly hard to accept remind yourself that, just like nature changes with the season’s everything moves, and nothing is static, not even you.
Whatever situation you’re facing right now or difficult feeling you are experiencing these things will change too.
Accepting a situation doesn’t mean you agree with it or like it, you can dislike your circumstances and still be accepting of the way things are.
Take compliments without putting yourself down
It’s just as important to accept the good things and the bad.
How well do you take compliments?! I am terrible at taking a compliment, and I always downplay it or make an excuse! How you view yourself, and your self-worth is to blame here, take compliments with grace and stop putting yourself down.
Check expectations and stop comparing yourself to others
So many things are possible these days, and sometimes it’s easy to develop high expectations about your life. Expecting too much from yourself or season of life can lead to disappointment when things don’t work out or don’t move on as quickly as you’d like.
Keeping your expectations in check and kicking self-judgement helps you become more content with your life as it is right now.
Use social media wisely and stop comparing yourself to others, remember that people generally only share the good and fabulous times!
Self- judgement results from the negative thoughts you have about yourself
Negative thoughts become ongoing chatter in your mind and as a result, can produce anxiety and depression. This chatter is often on auto-pilot, so you need to become aware of your thoughts and stop them when they start.
Imagine if somebody else were to say the negative things to you that you say to yourself, you’d be shocked and feel hurt. Actually, the things you say to yourself are more often than not, pretty awful, yet you think it’s perfectly reasonable.
By focusing on creating a better relationship with yourself and taking better care of yourself, you start to realise you are worthy of love, connection and belonging.
Kick self- judgement to the curb and imagine what your life would be like if you weren’t being judged by yourself every day.