The battle every day
Do you have those days when you wake up and just know? You know today is going to be one of “those” days when you’re not going to function. It’ll be a fight to overcome depression and anxiety and today those feelings are going to take the lead.
You know you’re going to spend the day wrapped up in your head, punishing yourself over every little thing. I woke up feeling like that every day for a long time.
I started using Anti-depressants about six months ago; I’d spent many years resisting medication, terrified of what they’d do to me! Thinking I could handle it all, thinking to myself, I’m a relatively intelligent adult I should be able to ‘think’ my way out of this feeling!
Of course, I didn’t realise at the time that even those thoughts were destructive! Feeling like I was a failure because I’d have to tell my mind to shut up and get on with it.
Now there are less of those days, and that’s something I’m so grateful for, but there are still times I know, I’m going to have to fight to function.
Knowledge is power and knowing what helps you overcome your feelings of depression and anxiety is half the battle.
I know everybody has different strategies when it comes to managing their mental health. Depression and anxiety affect every one of us very differently. However, there are some ways that you can help yourself which work on a universal level. It’s worth a try anyway isn’t it?
I’m going to share some simple things I do to help myself when I’m having a bad day.
Here’s a revelation, you ARE ALLOWED to feel like this! Attacking yourself for feeling low is counter-productive and won’t motivate you to get up and get going. It’s going to have to opposite effect.
If you’re punishing yourself for feeling and not being able to overcome depression and anxiety easily, you need to stop.
It’ not your fault and waking up knowing you’re going to soldier on is already an achievement. Know that everything you do today is going to be a milestone even if it’s just taking a shower.
Recognise what you’re feeling and forgive yourself and don’t beat yourself up about it. How would you react to a friend feeling this way? No doubt, you’d be compassionate and understanding, treat yourself that way too.
Speaking of showering!
Sometimes the extraordinary amount of effort required just to get in the shower and make time for self-care is overwhelming. I can guarantee once you do though you’ll feel better, looking after yourself and your appearance can have a profound effect on the way you feel.
It’s sticking up a middle finger up and rebelling against your negative emotions by saying, you know what, I’m going to look after myself no matter what. Trust me, do it!
Resist your bed
I know, I know it’s tempting to go to sleep and erase the hours, but I can assure you, going to bed and sleeping the day away isn’t going to help.
When I wake up, I feel even worse, knowing I’ve done nothing but waste the day. I hate myself for wasting precious time that could have been spent doing things that will improve tomorrow.
Feeling tired is a symptom of depression, I get it, It’s not just tired, it’s a whole other level of exhaustion, but there are things you can do to counteract this feeling. In this post, you can find out why you need to make healthy food choices for body & mind.
Get yourself outside, go for a walk and be in the present. In the past, I’ve spent days cooped up inside my home with the blinds shut and not answering the door or phone.
Doing this won’t help you. I know it feels like you want to hide away from the world and shutting it out is the easiest way to manage but ultimately it’ll just make you feel worse, It’ll make you feel lonely and isolated.
Walking gives me time to be mindful and just be, I go somewhere I know will heal my soul. Being in nature and appreciating all of the things it has to offer heals.
I joined The National Trust because I know that when I need to reset there is somewhere, I can go that will be tranquil and bring a sense of peace into my world.
Talk to someone
Talk! I can’t express this enough, talk, talk and talk some more! I don’t have many ‘real’ friends, you know the ones, the friends you trust entirely with anything, and they support you and understand.
Last year I saw my best friend only a handful of times, and each of those times it was because it had been so long that it was getting ridiculous!
I don’t do that any more; I realised I was isolating myself, albeit, subconsciously at the time. The trick to being able to overcome depression and anxiety is to tell someone how you’re feeling. Let someone you trust in, and allow them help you the best way they can. Even if they have nothing to contribute but an ear to listen.
Do something productive
You know those mundane everyday chores that you hate doing at the best of times, like the washing and cleaning.
Try to get something done; it might not make you feel better when you’re using up all of your precious energy getting a job done. Tomorrow, however, waking up will seem a little easier knowing you don’t have a to-do list a mile long.
When I wake up surrounded by mess and a million things to do it makes me feel a hundred times more depressed and anxious.
I feel annoyed when all I can see are things I need to do, but I don’t feel like doing any of it. Kicking myself up the butt and getting a job done is hard, but I do it because it will help me overcome depression and anxiety in the long run.
Fighting for yourself is the only way forward, and we’re striving for progress not perfection, you and me both!
When you’re trying to overcome depression and anxiety what you need to remember is we’re playing the long game.
Ignoring the problem won’t make it go away believe me, I’ve wasted far too much life doing that. Being vulnerable and proactively seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness it’s a sign you are strong and very much capable.
There’s no overnight fix; you won’t wake up one day and be well again, but being depressed is not a fixed state. I know if I can overcome depression and anxiety you can too!
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In the meantime, you could check out these 10 ten ways to reset when you’re feeling stuck in life.
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